Your Thoughts On Performance Management?
When you look at people who you classify as “peak performer” what do you think they do differently from you? You admire them because they seem to always get the opportunities and they get things done. When you admire them, do you use the same lens to judge yourself and your performance, or is your point of view a little bit different when it comes to you? How fair a judge are you about your performance and what your abilities really are? That thought of “you are not good enough” can have a negative effect on your performance, setting you up on a slippery slope where all you want to do is hide, as you are afraid that you will be exposed and found out for being a fraud.
Coming across what is defined as “Imposter Syndrome”, fascinates me, given my interest in people and behaviour. I am amazed that there is even a definition for this “not feeling worthy syndrome” and how prevalent it is. It’s a syndrome that happens to 70% to 80% of the population apparently and super achievers are not immune to it. A case to make the point;
- An incoming class at Stanford Graduate School Of Business was asked “How many of you in here feel that you are the one mistake that the administrative committee made?” Two thirds of the class raised their hands.
Imposter syndrome, in simple terms is what happens when people fail to believe that they deserve the success that they have achieved. Success achieved is seen as chance or a fluke, and therefore sooner or later that luck will run out. The victim feels he/she will soon be seen for who they are which is not good enough for that job or to be in that position. Imposter syndrome can really break you in terms of realising the opportunities you could deliver given your potential and ability!
If you believe you are not good enough, you are highly likely to be right. It does not mean you were never good enough, it just becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy because of what you believed in the first place. You can’t expect people to believe in you if you do not believe in yourself. Think of the last time someone presented an idea to you and they did not come across as being sure of themselves. Did you buy into the idea?
Self-criticism is not constructive if it becomes a self-bashing party. It only fuels your insecurity and insecure people are the hardest to deal with in the workplace as they are always in a defensive position looking to protect something (usually their job). They do not collaborate well with their colleagues as a result of that. This is not about lying to yourself about your abilities and performance. It is about recognising and accepting your successful achievements rather than belittling them as “by the way”…
You can’t be creative if you are not feeling good about yourself, and you will also not attract the right team of people who’ll want to work with you on delivering the objective. There is nothing wrong with having self-doubt. Seeing it and acknowledging it is important, but these are simply thoughts in your head, so don’t get stuck in believing them. More than 70% of people, including super achievers, have these thoughts so you are not alone.
Thinking you are not good enough is not the reality you want to live as that will determine how you feel about yourself and in turn how you perform. Nothing impacts your performance more than how you feel about yourself, so back yourself to improve your performance.